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5 Easy Ways to Love Yourself

The root of radical self love is in listening to your intuition, & learning to hear what your body is telling you it needs. Sometimes, though, that can be tricky… So I’ve compiled 5 easy (REALLY easy!) things that you can do right now!

Pick 1 of them to do today, & do another two or three over the coming week. I think — actually, I know! — that you will be staggered by how effective they are!

1. Spend some time alone 

I implore you to do this, even if you have to cancel a social outing in order to make it happen. Learning to get comfortable with who we are is one of the must crucial parts of radical self love!

Close your laptop, take off your headphones, & turn off your phone. Just hang out with yourself. Go for a walk. Meditate. Go out & get more familiar with your city! Go & do something you really want to do: maybe go to an art show, or see a movie no one else wants to see! Eat lunch at the raw vegan place all your friends think is weird. Go to a festival & smile at strangers.

At first, spending this time by yourself can feel uncomfortable & awkward. You might think that people are looking at you, judging you, & saying to one another, “Look at that loser all by herself!” The opposite is true. Most people who see you are actually wishing they had the guts — & the personal freedom! — to do exactly what you’re doing!

The feeling of discomfort will go away. Even better, as you do this more often, you will realize how essential this time is for building up your own sense of self, & you will grow to love & relish it!

2. Shift your focus 

What is more important? Being beautiful on the outside, or the kind of person you are becoming on the inside? As fun as it is to play with cosmetics, it’s a fact that even the most gorgeous people age, & looks fade.

Isn’t it funny how you meet older people & someone will say, “Such-&-such was so good-looking back in the day!” I hate to break it to you, but one day, someone will say this about you! At that point, what really matters is the kind of person you are. Are you good & loving & kind? Do you try to help people whenever you can? Are you generous with your time? Do you strive to make other people happy? It’s never too late to begin doing all of these things, & it will bring you true happiness.

3. Write a love letter to yourself on your mirror… In lipstick, if you dare!

It can be as simple as (“I love you!”) or as complex as (“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach…”) as you please.

Maybe you could add a little something to it every day. Maybe you could read it aloud to yourself every morning. Whatever it is, write something true — something that resonates. Make it truly yours.

Write yourself the love letter you always wanted to receive.

4. Evaluate what you’re feeding yourself… & I’m not talking about food!

I regard all the media we consume as like food for the soul. What you really have to ask yourself is whether the television shows, movies, music & art you indulge in are enhancing your life or detracting from it.

I love trashy reality television as much as the next person — hell, I could name every Basketball Wife or Love and Hip Hop cast member there is! — but I know that watching it is detrimental to my life & to my existence. It’s all just drama & nonsense & it perpetuates so much negativity about body image. Maybe this sounds a bit far-fetched, but if we’re the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with, surely the TV we watch & the music we listen can be just as influential!

By the way, my definition of what you’re feeding yourself includes the people you associate with online! Are there a few people on Facebook who simply update so they have an outlet for whinging & complaining? What about that dude on Twitter who hates his job (& wants everyone to know about it)? Do you read blogs by women who talk down or negatively about other people? It’s time to cut these people out of your life. You won’t miss them, I promise!

5. Move your body! 

Get out of the house today & stretch your limbs! Go to a yoga or Pilates class, or if you’re low on disposable cash, take your yoga mat to a local park & have a big, lovely stretch underneath the trees! Call a couple of friends & invite them to join you.

Even getting the teeniest little bit of exercise will make you feel so good… & then you can collapse onto your mat & relax!

P.S. If you’re new to yoga, check out this flowchart to see what type of yoga is best for you! I love it!

Bonus Tip >>> Do something good for somebody else! 

The more I learn about radical self love, the more I realize that radical self love which is only focused on the self is not the whole picture. No, not at all.

Radical self love is about getting yourself to a loving, beautiful baseline, & then taking what you’ve learned & transferring it to the external world. It’s about helping other people, leading by example, & contributing your time or skills to anyone who needs them.

So think about how you could help someone else today. Then, go & do it!

Love, Love, Love

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